Family Sundays (Repost)

Author: angiem, 05 09th, 2010

You know those families that only get together for Thanksgiving and Christmas?  Well, our family isn’t one of those.  Our family welcomes any opportunity to gather up and sit down for a loud, opinionated meal, and we make all sorts of excuses to come up with a next meeting.  Unless, someone is out of town, our family Sundays start soon after noon when church let’s out, and they last for a good four to five hours.  We meet in our parents home, the house we grew up in, ushered in from the outside cold by the aroma of soup on the stove and a roast in the oven.

The lady of the house (my mom, or sometimes myself, as I go earlier to help) is responsible for the soup and the main course.  The rest bring the bread, the beverages, the salad makings, the dessert, and the flowers.  We set the table, without skimping on the details, and sit ourselves down with much deliberation as to who sits where.  Somehow we always end up in the same seats we had occupied the Sunday before.

After generous compliments to the chef and a word of grace from the oldest grandchild, we start our meal.  And what do we talk about?  All sorts of things, really, but we especially love politics.  Some of us are liberal, others more moderate, and yet others conservative.  However, we agree to disagree because we love each other, and regardless the heat generated by our discussions, we respect the other enough to listen and concede when the other is right.  The one thing we all cannot stand though, is the moronic repetition of the closed minded.  Every subject brought up needs to permit logical scrutiny.  There’s enough unexamined thinking everywhere without adding on more to that pile, isn’t there?

A couple hours into the meal, we retire to the living-room where we deposit our stuffed selves on the velvety couches and chairs, or prop pillows under our heads and roll ourselves out across the floor, cushioned by the thick persian carpets.  The discussion by this time is much lighter.  We recount stories of our childhood and jokes, and grandpa (my dad) hands out a weekly allowance to the grandkids that has been in effect since the first grandchild was old enough to know what money’s for.  The little kids are quite enthralled with grandpa’s method of throwing money up in the air.  They scramble this way and that to get their little hands around the floating dollar bills.

It often appears that time has quite stopped while our laughter and merry voices ring out the opened windows. And when it’s time to leave we do so with a bit of sadness.  These intergenerational repasts sustain us all in the week to come, and as we leave and pack ourselves in our respective autos, toting plates of leftovers, and buckling children into their car-seats, we call out to each other, “What are you doing this week? Let’s get together for coffee!”

I would like to announce that this Mother’s Day Sunday, my house has officially become the Sunday dinner house for us all. I am so very lucky that my husband does the majority of the cooking. He is really one of the most naturally talented cooks. Ever. Thank you, baby!


38 Responses to “Family Sundays (Repost)”

  1. Mwa Says:

    That is a huge thing! I love family Sundays. They sound perfect over your way.

  2. Jeanne Says:

    That was lovely to read Angie! I could imagine, feel, hear and taste thru it all.
    Hope you had a beautiful Mother’s Day…with a post like that could it be any better?


  3. Mary Moon Says:

    Sounds heavenly!

  4. Diane Says:

    What a wonderful Mother’s day celebration and the joys of having your husband cook it for you. Ahhhh! So sweet!

  5. Sabine Says:

    Beautiful descripition! And it reminds me so much of my own family - when we get together, which is much rarer though, because I’m living in the UK, my sister in the US, and the rest in various parts of Germany. But when we do meet up it’s just like that (we also discuss religion because some are christian, others atheist or follow a different spiritual path). I do love family get-togethers!

  6. Karen@SurvivingMotherhood Says:

    This sounds absolutely delightful, Angie!
    Once upon a time, when I was a child, my family got together way more often than we do now. I have nice memories of family dinners - fun times with my cousin. Now my siblings, my cousin, and even my parents have all moved across the state, or across the country.
    But I’m going to have lunch with my grandma this week. That will be nice!

  7. Susu Paris Chic Says:

    Family, going to church, warm soup, long-lasting lunches… these may all sound very ordinary. Yet when you don’t have them, they appear so precious. You are blessed.

    I have other pleasures. Family is far, but one very special, my sweet husband, just like yours, is right here on my side. As I am on his.

    I’m getting ready for my U.S. trip. Can’t wait! It has been a long time since I last were over there. My heart is beating of excitement. How sweet to hop on the plane on Saturday!

  8. Jena Says:

    You are a blessed family. It’s amazing how you love spending time with each other. God bless you guys!!!

  9. Ava Says:

    I love to see that families like yours exist and they areb’t just fairy tales. I love your Sundays! I love you all! Please adopt me?

  10. krista Says:

    i KNEW those get-togethers didn’t just exist in romantic comedies.
    hope you had an amazing mother’s day. you are such a blessing in my life.

  11. Bebe Says:

    Happy belated Mother’s Day Angie! It sounds like you had a wonderful time together. Hugs!!

  12. Christie Says:

    I love Sunday get-togethers with family. Our family holds the same tradition.
    It’s such a wonderful way to connect and feel the love and support of those close to us.

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. The love you have for your family is evident.

  13. Stephanie @ La Dolce Vita Says:

    We had family Sundays until my mom passed and then my oldest sister moved away. You made me miss them! What a wonderful way to share with family.

  14. cathinunn Says:

    What a wonderful story, Angie…my family is all over the place so this type of Sunday isn’t possible - but with my family of friends - it is and this is just what we usually do on Sunday evenings…xxoo :)

  15. mrsbear Says:

    It sounds like a lovely way to spend a Sunday. That affection and appreciation you share for each other is a wonderful blessing.

    Happy Mother’s Day.

  16. mrsbear Says:

    And your husband’s amazing cooking skills are reason to brag too. :)

  17. angiem Says:

    Mwa, they are perfect in their own way. We are a loud bunch, that’s for sure.

    Thank you, Jeanne, I did. My husband did all the cooking, which was quite a feat as we were 17 people around the table. Hope yours was lovely. :)

    It is, Ms. Moon.

    Diane, funny this, but we did talk about your chocolate pie.

    Sabine, I’m sure that is tough on you all living so far apart.

    Karen, enjoy that! My granmothers have both passed away and I miss them.

    Susu that’s so exciting! Where in the US will you be?

    Jena, thank you! :)

    Ava, okay!

    Krista, thank you. You are so sweet! And a blessing in the lives of all who know you.

    I did, Bebe. Thank you! Hope you did too.

  18. Jennifer Says:

    Well, that is lovely.

    And I’m glad you know how lucky you are with your husband. I am the sole food gatherer and preparer, and often the one who cleans up, too. Not that my husband is sitting around while I do all this, but I would love someone to take care of those tasks for me every once in a while.

    I hope you had a fantastic, family-filled Mother’s Day.

  19. Jill Kemerer Says:

    This tugged at my heart. How wonderful to be close to your family. We live a few hours away from most of ours, but when we’re together, we’re happy.

  20. Susan Says:

    I sure do miss this sort of thing. It used to be & then broke up for all sorts of reasons (not me…but I can only do so much, being the peacemaker). Wow, I told them…you’ll be regret this, you will. They may, but they’ll never say. I miss my grandparents–the maternal ones. They kept everyone together. They passed away before I could settle into the same role. Maybe it was never possible anyway. Thanks Angie…it brings back memories of them for me.



  21. La Belette Rouge Says:

    I hope you had a very lovely family dinner on mother’s day. I would love to hear about what your husband made for dinner. Is that just because I am hungry or is it I am hoping that there is a husband in the world who has a broader repertoire than eggs and tacos.;-)

  22. She Writes Says:

    I hope it was FABULOUS!

  23. Holly L Says:

    I wish that my family could get it together and gather again so we could enjoy days like this.

  24. deb @ talk at the table Says:

    oh , heaven on earth ~ the Sunday dinners. You are so blessed. I love that you all agree to disagree. You know that is my mantra.

    and I sure hope the celebration at your house was awesome. I’m certain it was. You embody everything it means to be a mother, to love one, to inspire to live like one.

    love to you,

  25. belle de ville Says:

    I love your description of your family Sunday. You are very fortunate to have a family that gets together every week. It is a lovely tradition, especially for the children and the grandparents.
    I have always wanted to have family Sunday dinners, but my family is too spread out geographically for this. Eventually though I hope that I will be able to do this with my kids and grandkids.

  26. audrey Says:

    that’s it! i’m coming over Angie and i will insist on being adopted by your family…

    hugs hugs hugs!!

  27. Allegra Smith Says:

    When we were young our home was the “family and extended family” home. Sundays were lunch and games or art making. We were mostly into brainy games and it was a lot of fun.
    It wasn’t a surprise to have 20 people or more around the table. The difference? I cooked and B. cleaned. Then it was fun. Now we couldn’t do it. But I am delighted to hear that some traditions are alive and well, and that they are still a lot of fun. I am sure it would be if you are around ;-)

  28. julie Says:

    Oh Angie.. I wish I could come to one of your family dinners.. it sounds just like it should!!!

    Now my dear friend thank you so much for your lovely birthday wishes.. I feel very lucky to have met such wonderful blogging friends such as yourself.. and also.. thank you for my book.. i received it yesterday.. so .. a surprise birthday gift.. and included a Thank You note!! my goodness.. how sweet.. you send a giveaway gift and thank the recipient!! Angie.. you are the best!! I just love that card as much as the book… !! xxx Julie

  29. rochambeau Says:

    Happy Late Mother’s Day to you and yours, Angie. Your family sounds terrific!
    So do your get togethers. Glad to hear the baton has been passed on now, that you have an in house chef. Isn’t life Grand?


  30. Becky Ramsey Says:

    What a beautiful way to enjoy each other!
    I must say that I’m so impressed with the political discussion. So often people are afraid to disagree, and people just get entrenched in their own point of view. It’s good to have a free flowing, polite conversation and hear each other, instead of throwing darts at each other!

  31. laura Says:

    I love to hear you talk of your family. This one paints such a warm picture. One day, I pray this will be what our family is like. Never had this for the kid me, but oh, so hope it for mine.

    This is love.

  32. Laura [What I Like] Says:

    This sounds wonderful…certainly something I would love to do with more regularity, if only I lived closer to my family! I adore the fact that flowers are considered a must have for the meal, and that you talk politics, with examined opinions. I agree that there is nothing worse than the unexamined thought!

  33. Ange Says:

    Angie what a treasure of a life you have. How wonderful to share such times. It was much like that when we got together at my Aunty’s house with my parents and all of our cousins. Nothing like a vocal, opinionated, loving family who loves a laugh. And who all chip in to help with the clearing up!!
    Hey - I believe I miss those days. HOping my kids will fill the house up a bit one day too…

  34. Anya Says:

    Such a great post! You must be so lucky to have such an amazing family! I wish for once to have family like this, but it is only 3 of us + 3 dogs + 4 cats and a very loud bird! I am wishing you wonderful day my friend and hope that it will be filled with joy and inspiration!:-)

  35. Mama Zen Says:

    My family doesn’t get to do this as often as I would like. I miss it.

  36. Francesca Says:

    Families become and remain families thanks to these rituals I believe. Hope you had a lovely day last sunday Angie. We don’t celebrate Mother’s Day.

  37. Dawn Says:

    Can I move in with you?

  38. cathy cann Says:

    There is nothing better than all the kids over for dinner! In the house, in the yard, in a restaurant: we too are a noisy and hilarious bunch! I am in heaven on those occasions!

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