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My hair dresser thinks its absolutely normal for a woman to sleep with rollers in her hair, or a shower cap on, under which the hair is thickly coated with moroccan, olive or argon oil. When she told me that I should do this, I was absolutely horrified, to say the least. And not because she thinks my hair needs the extra hydration. What horrified me, is what it must do to her sex life if she goes to bed looking like a granny. She is young and newly married.
I can’t imagine looking so unsightly in my sleep. Can’t imagine subjecting my husband to that. All I would probably need to complete the look is drool coming out of the side of my mouth. Not that it doesn’t happen. But if it does, it isn’t intentional, and my husband is kind enough never to mention it.
For me it’s a question of respect. Out of respect for myself and out of respect for my husband, I don’t walk around the house in tattered sweats, or those gross looking pajamas that college kids consider outerwear. Out of respect for my marriage I make the extra effort to look nice. For him. And my husband does the same. For me.
I would not put up with a man who would walk around the house in his underwear, torn socks, stained shirts, baseball cap, scratching at his privates, belching, and so on. I would not want to have sex with him. I don’t even want to be subjected to watch a man brush his teeth, floss, check out the size of his pores, or the pimples on his back. Or worse yet, have me squeeze out the puss.
But I had coffee with some friends who believe not all things can be avoided in the daily life of a couple living together. Very true there. They also believe that after a person is married, how one half of the couple presents itself to the other half isn’t as important as before. That once a couple is married there should be unconditional love, acceptance and admiration in the matter of personal appearance. Not sure about that. But then it could be just me.
So my question is, what do you ladies think? How many of you do you stop caring what you look like, not to the outside world, but to your spouse? Or if you don’t stop caring, how many of you make exceptions for beauty’s sake?